Sex & Love Addiction Workshop

Outline

Porn viewing has increased exponentially since Covid-19 lock down and is impacting individuals from age 10 to 75 years old. Sexual habits and outlets have changed since lock down, with an increased use of webcam outlets, likely causing many more to find they have a compulsion which won’t stop.

Mills & Boons, Nancy Friday, Fifty Shades of Grey, The Millennium Wolves, 365 days are all vying for increased love addiction attention. Men & porn – “tut, tut, tut”. Women and erotic literature and movies – “What’s the problem”?

If you’re thinking of adding Sex, Porn, and Love addiction counselling to your skillset, this is a “taster” one day workshop to give you increased knowledge, not competency to work with this client group. This client group includes, women and men of all ages, children and those who have crossed legal boundaries and face criminal proceedings. They are all present in our case load.

The Kairos Centre has a separate Video-on-Demand training course for those who want to work with this client group and be trained to acquire the skills required to work with them. This is not that course. Here is what this taster one day course will cover:

• Sex addiction – what is it?
• Love addiction – what is it?
• Porn addiction – what is it?
• Love of sex or a true addiction?
• How prevalent?
• Errors of well-meaning helpers?
• Definite “No, No’s”
• Support for the affected partners/wives?
• The role of shame and Narcissism
• Sexual map, sexual preferences and sexual templates set up in childhood development
• Why don’t they just stop it?
• What age groups and types of persons are affected?
• It could happen to me – really!
• Why are Ministers and Carers prime candidates for sex addiction?
• Overview of a sex addiction program, Resource and Reading
• “….and women do it too”
• “What I wish I’d known before watching porn”
• Harmful consequences
• Its role, purpose and function
• The Recovery Process
• Motivation to change and the Stages of change
• Should I tell her everything?
• It cuts across all social classes (from Judge to Labourer)
• The Cycle of Sex addiction
• The role of the brain and self manufactured biochemical
• The role of Attachment/Rejection/Childhood development
• Maintenance and Relapse prevention tools
• Identifying and managing Triggers

Who should attend the workshop?

All Therapists, counsellors, youth leaders, Pastoral workers and anyone who come across issues of sex in their work or do not know whether sex is unspoken (but is in the room) and want to become knowledgeable to work with the issues up to a level.

Facilitators

Gary McFarlane

Gary McFarlane is from The Kairos Centre, is a member of BAATN and endorses BAATN’s Core Values of:

• Acknowledge that all people are worthy of respect
• As a Therapist, has insurance and is a member of a professional body that has a code of ethics and a complaints procedure.
• Acknowledge and value the emotional pain and distress caused by racism, oppression and cultural conditioning, including facing my own internal and external oppression
• I support BAATN’s challenge of psychological therapies that oppress or assert power and control over individuals, groups and communities. (e.g. reparative therapy with Gender and Sexually Diverse communities)
• I support BAATN’s challenge of stereotypes about people of Black, African, South Asian, Caribbean and People of Colour heritages.

Venue

Online meeting via Zoom

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